A Survivor’s Guide to Christmas
Who doesn’t love Christmas – right?
Well, in truth, the Hollywood version of Christmas is often far from reality. While it can be a time of excitement and joy, it can also be a source of significant stress, especially for separated parents, step-parents, and those facing financial hardship. If you fit into one of those groups, you are NOT alone. In fact, you are in the majority. So, knowing that it’s not always merry and bright, we have come up with a few tips to help you manage the stress and make the most of your Christmas.
1. Talk It Through
For separated parents and step-parents, clear and early communication is key. Discuss your plans to avoid last-minute conflicts. Ensure that everyone, including your children, knows what will be happening. If you’re co-parenting, think about how much joy you get from spending Christmas with your children and try to remember that your co-parent probably feels the same – find a balance that allows you both to share in the excitement of Christmas with your kids.
2. Keep It Real
Understand that not everything will go perfectly. Just try to enjoy the moments rather than strive for some idea of perfection. Odds are, the kids will throw tantrums, the turkey will be a little overcooked and Uncle Kev will say something he shouldn’t. Let these things go and make the decision to focus on the good bits, whatever they are, wherever you find them; because a few blunders won't be make you a bad parent and nor will they make for a bad Christmas – unless you let them.
3. Don’t Spend What You Can’t Afford
Financial stress can be particularly tough over Christmas. Create a budget that prioritises essential expenses and stick to it. Look for affordable ways to celebrate, such as homemade gifts, and by attending free community events. The pressure to buy presents for you children can be hard to deal with. There are some community support and resources services that are here to help. They can assist with expenses and meals, and we also have a range of pre-loved and charity stores that might have some affordable gift options for you. Don’t think twice about reaching out.
Salvation Army Thrift Shop 636 Fifteenth Street Mildura
C2A Mildura 822 Fifteenth Street Mildura
Vinnies Mildura 79 Lime Ave
Australian Red Cross Thrift Store 104 Langtree Ave
Second Choice Op Shop 2135 Fifteenth Street Irymple
The Purple Patch 36 Tapio St Dareton
Benetook General Store 1022 Benetook Ave
Murphy’s Vintage Wares 39 Jacaranda St Red Cliffs
For Emergency & Food Relief:
The Salvation Army: Need Help This Christmas | The Salvation Army Australia or phone 5023 1647
St Vincent De Paul: 5023 5750 / 13 18 12 Food Vouchers, Support Services | Vinnies Victoria
4. You Matter
Amidst the chaos, don’t forget to take care of yourself; duck away for a sneaky nana-nap, go for a walk, read a book, or watch a movie. Taking a break will help you cope. If you feel yourself becoming anxious, or angry, take a step back. It’s ok to need some space.
5. Calm Your Farm
Spending more time with family during the holidays can sometimes increase tensions, especially with the added factor of alcohol consumption. Be aware of potential triggers and approach conversations with empathy and patience. If conflicts arise, stay calm and, if necessary, take a break. Remember, once words are spoken, they can't be taken back, and arguments can quickly escalate.
6. Support Is Out There
If you’re feeling overwhelmed, or unsafe, don’t hesitate to seek help. If you can, talk to your friends and family, or contact a 24-hour support service. Sharing your feelings can provide relief and offer new perspectives on handling holiday stress and remember, if you are not safe, call for help and leave if you can.
Lifeline: 13 11 14
Beyond Blue: 1300 224 636
1800Respect: 1800 737 732
If you’re in immediate danger, phone 000
7. In With The New
For those in blended families or facing changes, creating new traditions can be a great way to bond and make the holidays special. Involve everyone in planning and come up with activities that everyone can enjoy together.
Conclusion
Christmas has its challenges, but with some planning and a focus on what truly matters, you can survive the silly season with less stress and more joy.
